My mother and grand mother says and said "when you cook food, cook with love" and I never understood

Til now, when grown. Now I'm not in a hurry cooking, I dont throw things around in the kitchen and whats left is just lots of dishes and a strange feeling of "what just happened", I let it take the time it needs and I do it with care for both the food it self and they who eats it.
What I found out was that food cooked the time it needs to be cooked and with the love and respect it deserves, tastes better and gives me a better feeling after eating it.

A couple of tips when cooking (the three important p's and the big L) to make it easier for you

1. Plan - if you can, plan a week ahead, this way you know what to do and when to do so you dont need to feel the pressure or stress of cooking. If you plan for it, it will be so much easier
2. Purchase - go to your favorite store(s) or supermarket(s), dont be afraid to speak to butchers or the sales team and see to it that the give you the service and food of the high quality that you deserve.
3. Prepare - Since you have planned so well and for a whole week, prepare everything the day before or the same day. See to it that you got everything needed for the meal your cooking so you dont have to look for it
4. Love - your food, give it the herbs, the seasoning and scents of the highest possible quality and learn to cook everything from the ground, it will be worth it!

And of course, after cooking with love, invite some good friends, the family or loved ones to the table and enjoy

Today when I went to Borås Knalleland for a bit of shopping it came clear to me, when walking around in a store whats really important.

Many storeowners either seem to think that I want to steal something since they follow me around the store without saying something or they start talking to me before I have seen whats in the store. These to people lost me as a customer because I got stressed and couldnt concentrate on what I was there for, to shop.

So I put together a short list whats important for sales personell to think of in a store (and with some creativity this can be translated to online channels as well):

• Let the customer look around a couple of minutes before you jump at him to try to sell, he needs to have this time to accommodate with the store and filter out the important products in the store. A polite "hello" or "welcome" is of course a natural thing that you should say immediately the customer enters.
• Be intuitive about the customer, if he looks confused, go to him and ask if you can help him out
• If you start helping a customer out, dont give the impression that you actually dont have the time to speak to him because you want to go to the next customer. If, and only if, the customers just seem to talk to you about the weather and you have lots of people in line it is ok to be polite once again and say "it is nice talking to you, but I have more customer in line"
• Eyecontact at the counter, dont stand there when the customer is paying and just look at the cashier. Look at the customer, a smile perhaps, and give him his receipt and a "thank you for shopping, hope you will be satisfied"
• If you got the time, try to say "good by" to customers leaving the store without buying things. This way they see that you actually did not ignore them and its a higher chance of getting free advertising.

Its really simple because if you are polite and give the customer a bit of breathing space before giving him the commercial parts its probably a happy customer and happy customer often shop or at least give you free advertising to his friends.

You could say, and this goes for B2B online business as well as physical stores, that you need to get a customer interested in your things before you start with the commercial messages to him.

I have lost 48 kg the last three and a half years and I'm sure that more people need to loose weight,
every professional within different weight industries and almost everyone else knows this as well.

The problem is that what I found out its not what you eat, how much you work out or how many methods you use.

Its a matter of realizing and deciding "ok, this is it, I'm overweight and I will do what it takes to reach my goals"
Anyone heard of alcoholics (on AA) saying "Hi, my name is XXX and I am an alcoholic". Probably not since most of the meetings
are closed, but what Im after is that it is actually the same thing.

Having an eating disorder, no matter if it is making you overweight or underweight, is something that you need to
get into your head to figure out solutions for. Before someone says "But isnt bodybuilders or fitness freaks
having somekind of disorder as well" I would say that being out of control and in perfect shape is not great in some cases.

So here is how I got out of my eating disorder, which I now see that it had nothing to do with supermethods or eating grass or
running 150km a day.

1. Talk with a professional (dont stop reading here, its ok to go to step 2)
   I did this, at work we had help of occupational health company Boråshälsan, by talking to a nurse in a group therapy manor
   It was a great time opening up both to people I knew and someone from outside my world
2. Talk with supporting friends about your eating disorder and ask for their support
   What you dont need is someone telling you what to do, what you need is support in the rollercoaster ride that weight loss or weight gain actually is.
   You need someone that can be honest to you and remind you of your goal in a way that makes you work in the right direction again if you fall of the train
3. Admit to your self, family and your friends that you actually have an eating disorder
   You need to do this because it makes it so much easier to reach your goals. The most important to admit that there is a problem is your self.
4. Start over each day and be prepared to fall of the train
   Since this is not some method thats supposed to work in different steps, start over each day
   Be prepared to fall of the train, it will happen, but remember that it is ok since you will start over each day to reach your goal
5. Set up small goals where you give your self something for doing good
6. Write a food and workout diary
   Write down EVERYTHING you eat every day during a period of 10 weeks. This way you will be able to go back and see what makes you successfull
7. Workout and do this when you want
   Find a workout that fits you that you can do whenever its ok for you to do it.
   Its doesnt have to be football or aerobics or something like that, its ok take a walk at lunch or doing 10 situps in the morning, as long as you start getting this into your life with working out.
8. Learn whats in your food and learn that its fun to cook healthy
   Read on the boxes when buying foods and ask someone you know (there is always several that knows this, and I know you know this as well)
   Go cooking courses or cook with friends and family and have fun in the kitchen.
9. Stop looking at the scales every ten minutes
   It is normal that you change your weight during the day or between days, and it could be a stress factor looking at the scale to often. Once a week is enough
10. Eat what you eat today, but learn how much normal is
    Talk to a professional, look at internet/books or use the different applications that is available to learn how much normal intake is.
11. Let it take time
    If it will take years, let it take years. There is no fast way to weight success
12. Be successfull and share your knowledge with others!

So, admit, decide, do it and be as successfull as possible!

If I can do this, I know you can!

Anyone heard the phrase "its common sense" and look like a question mark?
Thats because so many people have different perspectives in what common sense is

So what it common sense?
To me its trusting the spontaneous feeling how I should react when Im in a situation and
right after this stopping the most extreme reactions before I actually let out my reaction

Its this stopping or filtering, in my mind, that is common sense. To react in a polite and
calm manor.

If the reaction would be to much mainstream, I use my experience and mold it into
a new reaction that fits the situation, and if it is to extreme I filter it a bit.

Is it people being afraid that makes them not trust their common sense?
Probably an experience and bad confidence thing. I see it amongst younger colleagues and
people with a bad confidence.

When your placed in situations, see to it that you try to learn how different people react in different situations
and when you see reactions that in their turn get a calm and polite reaction back you have seen the result of common sense

In the title it says "A lost art" and thats because I personally dont see this as much as I, and lots of people with me, would
like to see it.

My mother always told me that I should speak with a king in a kings manour and a farmer in a farmes manour
because there are always differences in how complicated or profession specific their language is. Just to be clear,
it has nothing to do with treating people different, its only what vocabulary I use when speaking to different people in
my work.

Throughout the years I have seen how good this makes a consultant looks towards customers or suppliers if he
can level with them. I have experienced customers saying "Its so easy to speak to you about IT systems because
you say it in a way we actually understand" which is always the goal when speaking about things I do.

But! Why are there so many, not only but its the profession I'm in, consultants that refuse to level or where
the levelling is none existing?

I would say it comes from the culture where you're brought up, but it should also be important in the educations
throughout the different universitys that persons that are going to have contact with someone should learn this
important thing called levelling. Teachers, parents and professionals that know how this is done, be honest to
students, sons, daughters and colleagues and give them pointers. If everyone could level, Im sure there would
be less misunderstandings and confused people out there

So how is this done?
A couple of reminders:

• Learn who your customer are, what they do and what vocabulary they use
• Practice on friends and family to explain the things you work with
• Ask your customers for feedback after you have explained things to them and see how well you made it

And to you that refuse to learn or change, think again, your environment will like you even more if you level with them

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